I suddenly felt very grown up when I realised what was going on. I had simply been invited to Js nursery with MK to discuss how he is getting on but when we started talking, I realised that this was, in fact a parents evening thing.
Throughout my school career, parent evening was something that I more or less dreaded. It was the time when all of your mediocrity would be analysed in detail and the conclusion would more or less always be the same: "Could do better..." "should do better if he tried harder" and so on. As an aside, it has taken me about 20 years and a little help to realise that being told that you are lazy throughout your school life does not mean that you need to believe that you really are lazy and that everyone else in the world works better/harder than you do simply because they are not you.
Of course we are not measuring academic performance here but it was nice to hear that J is a pretty normal little guy. He's a bit shy and scared of the bigger boys although he's not afraid to tell them if he doesn't like what they're doing. His social skills are improving and he is basically doing fine.